CHANTING BENEFITS

 

 

THANK YOU FOR BEING PART OF IT ALL

 

Honoring what has been.. and Welcoming what is to come.. Thank you for being part of it all!

 

SERVING OTHERS

 

How are you SERVING OTHERS? 

I can’t really speak of some of the ways I GIVE or SERVE others as I cannot grant requests.  There are so many out there who need our help.

My friends tell me that answering fan emails and requests are karma yoga (selfless service).  Of course I have to pay for the autographed photos as well as the cost of mailing them.  This week I mailed out to Russia and England.  

I don’t have my own kids, but my friends who have children tell me, all my giving is similar.  As being a parent is definitely selfless giving.  

I do think my book “My Darling Sociopath” will serve others in recognizing a sociopath in their life.

I dedicate the book to the many men and women who have been, and are still, victimized by the 4% of the population who have no capacity to love or empathize.

Here’s an excerpt from the prologue:

Is there a sociopath in your life?  Would you be able to tell?  How soon?  Within a day, a month, a year?  What damage could transpire in that time?  What if, over that time, you’d begun to think that maybe you are the abnormal one, the paranoid one.  The sociopath’s minds does not work like the other 96 percent of us who are capable of feeling guilt.

But who among us would suspect such an encounter?  Most human beings are born with an innate sense of right and wrong.  Society further solidifies this idea.  Our relationships with other people are founded on the basis that everyone possesses this trait.  But a surprising number of people are born without a moral compass.  

Sociopathy (sometimes referred to as psychopathy) is an antisocial personality disorder, where a person has no regard for the feelings and welfare of others.  They will do anything and everything to get what they want at another’s expense.

Do you have a person that you are sincerely concerned about?  Does he or she do things that, to you, are beyond comprehension?  If you recognize this in your partner, family member, coworker, or friend, you might be dealing with a sociopath.”

 

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My 104-year-old student brought this to my attention after yoga class: “You didn’t tell us to breath as much today!”

I apologized.  I was truly sorry.  I felt as if I cheated her out of a class.

I ALWAYS instruct to take deep breaths.  Because I too need it.  I don’t know what happened to me then.  

Maybe when I’m extra tired I don’t instruct as well?  I’m sure I’ve not been diligent 100 percent of the time when I teach.  But no ONE has ever let me know.  I’m grateful she did!

Maybe, especially after my 5th class of the day I think, that they’re tired of hearing me say:  DEEP BREATHS IN… FULL BREATHS OUT…  DEEPEN YOUR INHALATIONS…  SLOW DOWN YOUR EXHALATIONS…  LET ALL THE AIR OUT.  SLOWLY… AND COMPLETELY.

But I have to remember that it may very well be MY 5th class, but it’s only their FIRST.  First in a Week, In a Month.  

Once a week they take my class and I cheat them?  Well with this particular student, it is twice a week, but still.  Only 2 hours in one week they have a class and I don’t remind them to breath?  

I will have to be MORE.  I will have to get more rest so I can be a better teacher.

 

CHECK IN SOME MORE

 

More on our 2018 Goals.

Are you trying NEW THINGS?  TAKING CHANCES?  

Writing for the whole world to see here frightens me, though with each blog, I’m frightened less and less.  

I was always afraid to make mistakes, grammatical or otherwise.  But I don’t think that’s as bad as not taking chances at all.

Creating Art is frightening.  But I have learned to follow my path and not worry too much about what others might think.  Not EVERYONE has to like what I do.  

I went to an actual class on “tapping” (also referred to as EFT Emotional Freedom Technique) today.  I allowed myself to be vulnerable.  I will have to talk about “tapping” on a separate blog.

Are you spending LESS TIME ON SOCIAL MEDIA?  

I’ve been on social media for what seems like a lifetime because of my music.  Since MYSPACE.  Currently I don’t know of anyone still active on myspace, but I’m still there.  

It seems as if there’s always some new social media platform out there.  I try, but I just can’t catch up with technology.  I do use my phone for everything — to take notes, calendar, calculator, email, banking, weather, camera, you name it.  But… I try to leave my phone in the car or, yiikes, yes, at home.  I only say yikes ‘cause I might have a car emergency (especially with this winter).  But I like it!  I feel free.  

Just today, going to tapping class, I left my phone right at the kitchen counter.  I did miss it because I wanted to take notes, but my classmate lent me a pen, so that worked out.  It always works out.  I don’t think I’ve ever regretted leaving my phone.  

Are you working on GETTING OUT OF DEBT?  

I use credit cards all the time, but I pay them all off too.  I Cannot allow myself to waste money on interest payments.  “A penny saved IS a penny earned”.

Ok.  Enjoy!  Happy Monday!

 

 

FAILURE

 

I was decluttering and found this again.  It sure pays to de-clutter in more ways than ten:

Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure…  It does mean you haven’t succeeded yet.

Failure doesn’t mean you have accomplished nothing…  It does mean you learned something.

Failure doesn’t mean you have been a fool…  It does mean you have a lot of faith.

Failure doesn’t mean you have been disgraced…  It does mean you are willing to try.

Failure doesn’t mean you don’t have it…  It does mean you have to do something in a different way.

Failure doesn’t mean you are inferior…  It does mean you are not perfect.

Failure doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your life…  It does mean you have reason to start afresh.

Failure doesn’t mean you should give up…  It does mean you should try harder.

Failure doesn’t mean you’ll never make it…  It does mean it will take a little longer. 

Failure doesn’t mean God has abandoned you…  It does mean God has a better idea!

 

 

CHECK IN ON YOUR NEW YEAR’S GOALS

 

I thought I’d check in on your New Year’s goals, AND mine.

Are you MOVING MORE?  Even if it’s cold outside, move around the house!  Maybe stop and take a few deep breaths in Plank posture.  Add in a push-up or 2.  

I have a yoga mat in the living room plus one in my bedroom, right by a wall.  Sometimes, even when I just have a minute, waiting for my dinner to cook, I take a few breaths in Downward-Facing-Dog, or even a handstand against the wall or on a doorway. 

Do you have TRIPS SCHEDULED or planned?  Even a car trip.  

I have to be in L.A. a few times this year I know.  But I’m also planning on a meditation retreat in Wisconsin, which is only a couple of hours drive from Chicago.  

Oh!  And Belize, I’m working on teaching yoga in Belize for a week’s retreat.  I hope to see you there!

Are you REDUCING YOUR STRESS?  Sometimes, we have to do the things we have to do, but while we’re doing them, take Deep Breaths. 

I saw a private yoga client yesterday.  I started seeing her privately because of her torn rotator cuff.  It’s important that she has full use of her right arm because she’s in a wheelchair from polio (I will have to write about this on another blog).  Anyway, she FINALLY is taking deep breaths more.  She said that for the first time in her life (she’s 75 years old), she is taking more deep breaths.  AND it shows!

I hope you find these challenges enjoyable and life changing.  ENJOY!

 

 

LION

 

I read this today:

In the jungle which animal is the biggest ........

I heard you say, Elephant.

In the jungle which animal is the tallest ........

I heard you say, Giraffe.

In the jungle which animal is the wisest ........

I heard you say, Fox.

In the jungle which animal is the fastest ........ 

I heard you say, Cheetahs.

Among all these wonderful qualities mentioned, where is the Lion in the picture? 

Yet, you say the Lion is the KING of the jungle even without ANY of these qualities!

Why?

Because...

The Lion is courageous, 

The Lion is very bold,

The Lion is always ready to face any challenges, any barrier that crosses his path, no matter how big/bad they are!

The Lion walks with confidence. The Lion dares anything and is never afraid. The Lion believes he is unstoppable. The Lion is a risk taker. The Lion believes any animal is food for him. The Lion believes any opportunity is worth giving a try and never lets it slip from his hands. The Lion has charisma!

So...

- What is it that we get to learn from the Lion?

• You don't need to be the fastest.

• You don't need to be the wisest.

• You don't need to be the smartest.

• You don't need to be the most brilliant. 

• You don't need to be generally accepted to achieve your dreams and be great in life.!!

• All you need is *courage* 

• All you need is the will to try.

• All you need is the faith to believe it is possible.

• All you need is to believe in yourself, that *you can* do it!

*It's TIME to bring out the Lion in you!*

 

*"Face the terrible,*

*face it boldly"*

 - *Swami Vivekananda.*

 

PRUNING

 

“Pruning is proactive ending” says Henry Cloud jn his book “Necessary Endings”. 

To prune is to cut off or cut back parts of, for better shape or for more fruitful growth.   

We prune what is no longer useful.  We prune to Improve the health (of a plant for example) .  It results in a healthier, more attractive specimen.

We prune flowers, trees.  Hedges.  We prune our monetary budgets.  We prune our essays, songs, poetry. 

But how do we know when to prune in our lives?  Our relationships?  Obligations?

It’s time to end something when it’s: already dead; clearly dying; or could never take us to our full potential.

Recognize what is not working anymore.  What is just taking up space now.  Maybe even bringing you down.  Hindering your growth.  Hindering or taking away your peace of mind.  

Ending is Difficult I know.  

Find the courage to PRUNE.  To recognize these NECESSARY Endings.  And to finally END them.

Ending frees us.  

Ending brings HOPE.

 

NECESSARY ENDINGS

 

I love all the Happy New Year greetings and celebrations!  All the hype and the glory and positive energy.  It’s invigorating!  Thank you!

I hope it doesn’t end this week.  I hope it continues.  I hope we do get new Results.   

I hope this is the Start we have been needing.  I hope we do take that new Journey. 

I hope we have more Joys.  Peace and Serenity.  

I hope we never regret anything.  

But what if: Before all this anew, we need to END certain habits, certain relationships.  

NECESSARY Endings.